Broken trust .....Stays broken.

Treachery can never be forgiven.Trust once broken can never be regained.I value respect as equally as important as love..if not more so ..in any relation . Respect and love ... whether between friends , lovers or relatives. Once that respect is lost ,love cannot survive .

Once trust has been broken...no matter how much effort goes into trying to rebuilt
a relation the erstwhile sweetness can never ever be regained. The seeds of mistrust once sown can never be removed. It takes years and years to know someone ..to built trust and it takes just a moment to give it all away ... to destroy everything ...to spoil all the hours ,days ..years ...gone into making that relation ... any relation.

This scares me . Yes, I am afraid.


For me ..due to broken trust ... a relation or friendship i may have had ..has been broken it stays broken for good. I do not want to reconcile. If i am in a position to help out such a person I shall.If i am in a place and time to have a laugh ..share a joke with this ex-trusted entity i shall .I shall maintain all the reasonable formal norms that society expects ..but never ever shall i consider ...never ever shall I give such a person the opportunity to make a mockery of me and my time again .I don't care why the relation didn't work .Why the trust was broken...Who was at fault...I shall bear no grudges against such a person.. I shall blame myself first .. cause i was the one who trusted ..maybe i am at fault ..but the bottomline is that the relation failed ...The simplicity and respect of the relation is lost forever ..

Life is too damn short to depend and trust someone again ..to believe in a relation that has been falsified and insincere once.... is mind numbingly stupid .That's the conclusion I have come to .. thinking about this topic of broken trust ... Trust once broken for me.... shall stay broken for good.

There ofcourse are exceptions ... supposing a married couple with children ..and one of them finds the other guilty of adultery ... Or a son steals from his father ,his brother ...then invariably they must try and make it work .. they must try and trust in the relation again ... must ... cause we as humans would like to believe that things can be fixed ... we are too weak to let go ... we can't ... the moment we compromise by not punishing mistrust the respect is gone...and with it love and dignity of the relation.

Still believe broken trust should stay broken ... but we are often found too weak to accept ......when its over.......A nagging feeling always remains with second chances ...... that maybe it shall get spoiled again.... What was before can be no more...... no matter how much two people try ... when trust is broken ......... let it remain so .

Maybe I am too self respecting ...egoistic that i take such a view ... Maybe it's that i am willing to forgive (both myself and the other person) for the broken trust ..but not forget .. maybe I am wrong in this conclusion... but it works for me.